This Week’s ABC…

Advice: How To Make Your Demons Angels

Breakthrough: 5 Quotes By Bruce Lee

Challenge: Pick A Shadow

📖 Advice:* How To Make Your Demons Angels*

There are parts of you you’ve cast away.

They remain exiled.

Your inner child’s wounds.

You know the ones.

The parts of yourself you hide because of bad to traumatic experiences from role models, peers, or others that elicited such shame and fear for…

Being yourself.

The old wounds you buried under busyness, success, and smart strategy decks.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: what you suppress, controls you.

What you integrate, empowers you.

That is what I’ve learned in my journey from poor college student to Chief Product Architect, and Startup Founder with patented work.

To build real influence as a leader—and most importantly, a leader of yourself—you need to put down the self-help books and podcasts.

You need more of YOU—the full, integrated, emotionally aware you.

It took me years to realize I didn’t actually enjoy EVERY new experience or person I met.

I just enjoyed them more than the discomfort of the experience of being with myself.

When I finally stopped chasing, I met the parts of me I was running from.

I call him Little Robert, a name my therapist coined for me.

Little Robert is the one that loves reading, writing poetry, drawing, painting, designing—all the things I first fell in love with as a kid.

I cast him away when I was poor as shit in college trying to make ends meet and get to a point of stability.

And now I have him back, and now I feel whole.

Shoutout to my therapist.

Here’s a process to do shadow work that I’ve found tremendously useful. I wish I learned it ages ago.

It’s the 3-2-1 process I learned from Ken Wilber’s work.

Ken Wilber’s 3-2-1 Process is one of the most powerful ways I’ve found to face those inner demons—and turn them into allies.

Let’s break it down.

Step 0: First… Block Off Time To Sit With Yourself

This is the most important part. Because we all have busy, chaotic lives.

If you don’t block off time to be alone and actually do the work, you won’t do it.

You’ll keep running.

So…

• Stop running. Literally. Sit.
• No phone. No music. No self-help books.
• Just you and the uncomfortable silence.

You’ll want to escape.

The pull to doomscroll will feel strong.

The pull to check your emails or Slack messages will feel strong.

You’ll justify it with “productivity”.

But stay. Be stronger than your base desires.

You have agency and control, don’t you?

Immerse yourself in the noise, and you will find signal and clarity in yourself.

I recommend just focusing on your breath.

Then…

Step 1: Face It (Third Person)

Start by identifying the thing that triggers you.

Someone who makes your skin crawl.

A memory that still stings.

A quality you can’t stand in others.

Now, describe it as if you’re talking about someone else.

This is called taking the third-person perspective—or “facing it.”

The goal here isn’t to judge.

It’s to bring what’s unconscious into the light.

When you name it, you separate you from it.

You create enough space to observe without being consumed.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung*“He’s arrogant.”* “She’s fake.” “They never listen.”

You need to do the real work.

Step 2: Talk to It (Second Person)

Next, shift your relationship to it. Instead of describing the shadow, talk to it.

Talk to your shadow. Bad feelings don’t just exist, they belong to you. You manifest them.

So talk to them. Understand them.

When you stop fighting your shadow and start listening, you realize every part of you had a reason to exist.

Even the ugly ones.

When you unroot the why, you paint a better picture of who you are.

You must be honest with yourself. Don’t lie to yourself. Be brutally honest.

If you lie, you will continue feeling discontent with who you are.

This is where compassion enters the picture.

Step 3: Be It (First Person)

Speak as the shadow. These are your demons. This is how they become angels.

This is the first-person perspective—“being it.”

It’s the hardest and most liberating step.

When you own what you’ve been running from, it loses its grip on you.

You reclaim the energy it once held hostage.

That’s why Wilber calls it “gold star” work.

Inside every demon is really just buried power, passion, confidence, authenticity.

I’ve learned that what we label “dark” is often just light we’ve refused to look at.

Putting It All Together

So here’s the process flow:

Face it → Talk to it → Be it → Integrate it → Free yourself.

Note: This isn’t a one-time exercise.

It’s a lifelong practice of Self-Alignment.

You build up what I call “shadow debt” whenever you are emotionally triggered/flooded.

Every time you get triggered, you’re being invited to meet another part of yourself that wants to come home to you.

When you learn to stare at your demons long enough, you stop fearing them.

You start seeing their wings.

That’s how you turn your demons into angels.

Takeaway: You don’t need to slay your demons. You need to understand them, sit with them, and give them a new job—being your angels.

“I am angry, because…” “I am jealous, because…” “I crave control, because…”Now comes the real integration work. “Why are you like this?” “What are you afraid of?” *“What do you want me to know?”*And the powerful question I ask: “Why are you here?”

This is the second-person perspective—the dialogue.

The anger was protecting you.

The anxiety was trying to keep you safe.