Burnout sucks, it’s real, and it hits everyone from high-flying execs to students in school.

Burnout doesn’t discriminate.

However - burnout doesn’t have to be the end of the world.

This week’s ABC is all about understanding burnout, finding your way back from the edge, and building some** resilience practices** to protect yourself.

This Week’s ABC…

• Advice of the Week: Easy steps to spot burnout and start your comeback.
• Breakthrough Recommendation: A TED talk to help you kick burnout to the curb.
• Challenge: Take action, pamper yourself a little, and set some boundaries to keep burnout away.

Advice of the Week: Spot the Signs and Start Your Comeback

Or put more simply…

Life Lesson

Back in 2017, I had a consulting assignment early on in my career, where I was brought into a turnaround business situation that was on fire.

The clients were difficult to manage, and they had already been through 5 consultants who failed before me (which, they always wanted to remind me of).

I worked 12-16 hour days for 2 months, on that one project, AND had to travel across the country multiple weeks to complete the assignment.

I skipped the gym.

I gained weight.

I didn’t hang out with my friends, family, or significant other.

I basically did NOTHING to recharge my batteries. And I gave away all my energy to that consulting job.

Then I burned out.

It SUCKEDDDD.

If you’re anything like me, your mind will trick you into thinking that you should go be of service to others even if you have nothing in the tank.

Your mind (and mine) is wrong.

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

I learned that the hard way.

I picked myself back up, and even though I didn’t want to, I…

• Went to the gym
• Forced myself to go hangout with friends
• Called my family
• Had fun dates with my significant other
• Went hiking

All of these trickled some charge back into my batteries over time. And slowly, ever so slowly…

I became less and less burned out and found myself again.

I was feeling energetic and optimistic again.

It took a long time though, and I promised myself I would never do this again.

Burnout doesn’t just appear out of nowhere; it creeps up on you if you are not careful to spot the signs.

I didn’t know it then, but I’ll be damned if I burn out again now.

I’m very keen on figuring out the early warning signs so I can maintain sustainable high performance, and never reach unsustainable** peak performance.**

And you should be too.

So what is burnout?

The 3 Components of Burnout

1. Emotional Exhaustion: That feeling of being completely physically and emotionally drained. You’re running on empty, and it’s hard to muster up the energy to face another day.
2. Depersonalization: Feeling detached, cynical, or even resentful towards your work or the people you interact with. You might find yourself going through the motions, feeling numb, or even experiencing a sense of apathy.
3. Decreased Sense of Accomplishment: Feeling like you’re not making any progress, no matter how hard you try. You might doubt your abilities, feel like your work doesn’t matter, or struggle to find any sense of satisfaction or meaning in your work or achievements.

There’s an important distinction (and these are broad sweeping generalizations, your mileage may vary):

For men - burnout tends to manifest as depersonalization in particular.

For women - burnout tends to manifest as emotional exhaustion in particular.

Okay now that we know the signs… let’s talk a little about stress and how to avoid burnout.

Sustainable High Performance > > > Unsustainable Peak PerformanceYou can bounce back, and even better, you can stop it from happening again.

I have a saying that comes from hard lessons learned…

There was a lot of pressure on me to succeed.

I had no motivation for a while.

**Breakthrough Recommendation: “Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski: The cure for burnout (hint: it isn’t self-care) | TED” **

This TED talk is a total game-changer for understanding and dealing with burnout.

The Nagoski sisters, burnout experts, give you a whole new perspective on why we burn out and how to get back on track.

They actually wrote a book, “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle”. Check it out when you have time!

They explain how important it is to complete the Stress Response Cycle, which means getting your body moving to process and release stress hormones.

The Stress Response Cycle

Your brain activates your body into a fight/flight/freeze state - you’re running on adrenaline.

We’ve been wired this way since the dawn of time to protect ourselves from sabertooth tigers (back in the day), which worked really well when we were cave people.

Threats in the modern day can be: information overload, job insecurity, heavy workloads, blurred lines between work and personal life, verbal put downs, bullying or harassment, performance anxiety, conflict, and more.

Stress actually causes physiological symptoms. It manifests in the body and can turn into illness.

Literally - stress can make you sick.

The Stress Response Cycle

Alarm Stage

When you perceive the threat, and you go into fight/flight/freeze mode.

You may experience increased heart rate, rapid breathing, a surge of energy, and heightened awareness.

Resistance Stage

Once the initial threat subsides (you get moving, you do some exercise), your blood pressure and heart rate begin to normalize.

If your brain thinks you are unsafe (looming deadlines, the threat of poor performance, etc.) then you may experience poor concentration, irritability, or frustration. You might not be fun to be around.

Exhaustion Stage

Not completing the stress cycle can lead your body to repeat the stress response. This leads to chronic stress, which can lead to the following non-exhaustive list:

• heart disease
• stomach ulcers
• sleep dysregulation
• psychiatric disorders
• depression
• anxiety
• fatigue
• burnout

BURNOUT! That last one! That’s why we’re here!

Understanding how stress works leads to understanding how burnout works, so you can recover from and prevent it.

• Physical activity (exercise, dancing, sports)
• Creative expression (art, writing, music)
• Laughter (watch some comedy)
• Crying (having a good cry is therapeutic)
• Physical affection (hugs, cuddling with pets - I do this with Nibbler all the time)
• Deep breathing exercises (personally I like the Wim Hof method)

Do these things, even if you don’t want to and feel inertia too.

Stress is the physiological response in your body to any perceived threat. Now though, we’re not running away from sabertooth tigers (well, at least most of us).

And you can’t be high on adrenaline forever - that’s not sustainable.

So understanding the Stress Response Cycle is key, to preventing and recovering from burnout.

WE DON’T WANT BURNOUT!